Useful Emotion Coaching Quotes

Human reason needs only to will more strongly than fate, and she is fate.

The writer’s joy is the thought that can become emotion, the emotion that can wholly become a thought.

The emotional qualities are antagonistic to clear reasoning.

You shouldn't give circumstances the power to rouse anger, for they don't care at all.

When we are in conflict, we say things we do not mean and mean things we do not say. Only rarely do we communicate at a deep level what we really, honestly think and feel, or do so in ways that are empathetic. We seldom spreak from our hearts or expose our vulnerability in ways our opponent can hear.

When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures of emotion.

Battle not with monsters, lest ye become a monster, and if you gaze into the abyss, the abyss gazes also into you.

Men decide far more problems by hate, love, lust, rage, sorrow, joy, hope, fear, illusion or some other inward emotion, than by reality, authority, any legal standard, judicial precedent, or statute.

We are more often frightened than hurt; and we suffer more from imagination than from reality.

Talk is cheap, but it can cost you plenty.

... as much as talent counts, effort counts twice.

It only takes one to stop the tango, and that one could be you.

The greatest and most important problems of life are all in a certain sense insoluble…. They can never be solved, but only outgrown…. This ‘outgrowing', as I formerly called it, on further experience was seen to consist in a new level of consciousness. Some higher or wider interest arose on the person's horizon, and through this widening of view, the insoluble problem lost its urgency. It was not solved logically in its own terms, but faded out when confronted with a new and stronger life-tendency.

 "Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope empathy, accountability, and authenticity.

Vulnerability is scary, but it's better than getting to the end of your life and realizing that you didn't show up or be seen.

Those who are skilled in combat do not become angered, those who are skilled at winning do not become afraid. Thus the wise win before the fight, while the ignorant fight to win.

Anyone can become angry…That is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way—that is not easy.

Understand at last that you have something in you more powerful and divine than what causes the bodily passions and pulls you like a mere puppet.

Go to your bosom; Knock there, and ask your heart what it doth know.

The definition of vulnerability is uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure.

But vulnerability is not weakness; it's our most accurate measure of courage.

When the barrier is our belief about vulnerability, the question becomes: 'Are we willing to show up and be seen when we can't control the outcome?'

When the barrier to vulnerability is about safety, the question becomes: 'Are we willing to create courageous spaces so we can be fully seen?'

Any person capable of angering you becomes your master; he can anger you only when you permit yourself to be disturbed by him.

Anger is a barometer of caring.

I remember Rudi [a friend and teacher] saying once that all life is about transcendence. If you’re ugly you have to transcend your ugliness, if you’re beautiful you have to transcend your beauty, if you’re poor you have to transcend your poverty, if you’re rich you have to transcend your wealth… There is nothing worse than being born extraordinarily beautiful, nothing more potentially damaging to the self. You could say the same for being born inordinately rich. You suddenly realize how wise the idea is that you get nothing at birth except things to transcend. That’s all you get.

The greatest remedy for anger is delay.

Keep this thought handy when you feel a fit of rage coming on— it isn't manly to be enraged. Rather, gentleness and civility are more human, and therefore manlier. A real man doesn't give way to anger and discontent, and such a person has strength, courage, and endurance— unlike the angry and complaining. The nearer a man comes to a calm mind, the closer he is to strength.

True knowledge of God is gained when the lover comes in contact with the Beloved through secret communion with Him.

Tending the garden is a relaxing pastime, but it does not prepare one for the inevitable battles of life. It is easy to be calm in a serene setting.

To be calm and serene when under attack is much more difficult; therefore, I tell you that it is far better to be a warrior tending his garden rather than a gardener at war.

The organism has one basic tendency and striving - to actualize, maintain, and enhance the experiencing organism.

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can also hurt me.

Stones and sticks break only skin, while words are ghosts that haunt me.

Slant and curved the word-swords fall, it pierces and sticks inside me.

Bats and bricks may ache through bones, but words can mortify me.

Pain from words has left its' scar, on mind and hear that's tender.

Cuts and bruises have not healed, it's words that I remember.

Because the ones I work for do not love me, because I have said too much and I haven’t been sure of what is right and I’ve hated the people I’ve trusted, because I work in an office and we are lost and when I come home I say their lives are theirs and they don’t know what they apologize for and none of it mended, because I let them beat me and I remember something of mine which not everyone has, and because I lie to keep my self and my hands my voice on the phone what I swallow what hurts me, because I hurt them--

I give them the hours I spend away from them and carry them, even in my sleep, at least as the nag of a misplaced shoe, for years after I have quit and gone on to another job where I hesitate in telling and I remember and I resent having had to spend more time with them than with the ones I love.

Men are like steel. When they lose their temper, they lose their worth.

An angry man opens his mouth and shuts his eyes.

Anger is not impressive or tough— it's a mistake. It's weakness. Depending on what you're doing, it might even be a trap that someone laid for you.

Anger brings about nothing grand or beautiful. On the other hand, to be constantly irritated seems to me to be the part of a languid and unhappy mind, conscious of its own feebleness.

If it bleeds, it leads.

since feeling is first
who pays any attention
to the syntax of things

Voice or no voice, the people can always be brought to the bidding of the leaders. That is easy. All you have to do is tell them they are being attacked, and denounce the peacemakers for lack of patriotism and exposing the country to danger. It works the same in any country.